My Story
Hi, my name is Mara and I am glad you’re here.
Are you living your life with a vague sense of dissatisfaction or feeling that some is just “off?” Do you want to feel more engage and alive in your life, living in the present with more passion, joy, creativity and meaning? Do you have all the cognitive knowledge and know-how, but can’t seem to shake old habits or patterns - leaving feeling defeated and that nothing works? I can help you understand why and give you the new tools you need to make lasting changes so you can live a more authentic and engage life.
For four decades I lived my life disconnected from my feelings, not knowing who I was, never trusting myself, and never seeing that I was enough. My parents divorced when I was 4 years old. I spent the following ten years tossed back-and-forth between them as they built and created new families without me. I felt unwanted, alone, less than, and ignored. It also left me exposed to emotional and physical neglect and abuse.
Eager to fit in and be accepted, I resorted to people-pleasing and perfectionism. I was self-reliant at a very early age, helping to raise my younger siblings and in many instances parenting my parents. I mastered the art of burying my pain and ignoring my feelings of worthlessness by excelling academically, and doing what others wanted so I would fit in and not loose favor or love. I even gave up my own dreams of becoming a therapist to go to law school in order to make my family happy. I essence, I abandoned myself, always living my life looking outside and gauging how I was showing up through the lenses of others.
Determined not to repeat the generational patterns of abuse and neglect that I had experienced, as I transitioned from lawyer to mother and business owner, I delved in to mindful parenting and learned all I could about childhood development, focusing on staying present, setting boundaries, holding space and fostering growth. These tools helped me forge a healthy core family and cultivate a life enriched with love and meaningful relationships. I truly thought I had it all figured out.
And then midlife happened - navigating career changes, coping with loss, kids off to college and BIG life changes. Contending with these big transitions left me feeling utterly disconnected to my wants and desires. I was battling negative self-talk and feelings of unworthiness. I was struggling to say the least. Suppressing emotions and ignoring deep-seated wounds were no longer viable options. I was deeply depressed and something had to change.
Thankfully, I stumbled upon The Adult Chair®, a life-changing model, method, and coaching program that resonated with me like no other. As I listened to the podcast and worked on the programs, I was given a fresh set of tools and a roadmap to untangle my stories and heal from the wounds that were keeping me feeling stuck and insignificant.
Through this profound journey, I experienced a greater sense of self-awareness and worthiness. My life view underwent a transformative shift. Now firmly grounded and aligned with my core truths, I live more in the present moment, feeling empowered and helping others navigate their way through this complex and confusing life. It would be my honor to work with and support you as you get back on purpose and start living your most authentic, healthy life.
Mara
Change is not an event, it is a process.
There is no magic pill. Getting unstuck is a process. As you see yourself in new ways, you will:
Unravel your stories and limiting beliefs so you can recognize the negative patterns and habits that are holding you back.
Learn the tools to heal unresolved wounds and unspoken trauma so you can connect with your inner child, set healthy boundaries, gain self-worth, and live all aspects of your life from the healthiest version of yourself.
Discover and clarify your core values (your truths) so you can feel empowered, grounded, and confident as you move forward and illuminate the path to attain your wants and needs.